Many people refer to being “called” to do something – feed the poor, take care of the environment, work with the disadvantaged, develop socially conscious companies, etc. Is that the same thing as destiny?
From my understanding of destiny – no. Destiny is not what you do – Destiny is WHO you are. Once you find your destiny, what you do will flow out of that. Often people get confused when they look for their destiny – they think they are looking for something to DO that will give them a sense of purpose. But the doing cannot come about until you know who you are.
We spend much of our time in childhood being corrected and told to “grow up”. We spend our teen years trying to fit in and be “like everybody else”. By the time we are an adult, do we even know who we really are?
When clients contact me to discuss how to find their destiny, I tell them that the journey starts with Self-discovery without judgment. The foundation to taking this journey is Self-Acceptance. For most, this is a very large barrier to overcome before they can embark on the journey of Self-discovery. Self-Acceptance must be cultivated for a period of time until it is part of your being – then you can work on finding your destiny and fulfilling it.
So to start on the path of finding your destiny, ask yourself, “Who am I?” Many people I’ve worked with have no idea how to answer that question. For some, they identify with their career (i.e. I am an office manager). For others, their identity is tied up in their relationships (i.e. I am Sam’s wife, I am Vicky’s mother, I am Thelma’s son). But none of these descriptions tell me who YOU are. They are a start, but you must go much deeper.
What do you like? What do you dislike? What are your core values – the ones that guide your decisions? What makes you – YOU?
Ponder these questions. If you want some help with this process, I offer one-on-one coaching to help you discover who you are and why you are here on planet Earth.