Q: How will you know when you’ve found your destiny?
Most people report a deep sense of internal rest, a sense of being at home in their skin, a lack of underlying striving or anxiety. People who are fulfilling their destiny say they have a sense of Purpose that accompanies their daily routine – they do not suffer from a lack of direction. Others report a sense of being energized, of waking up joyful and ready to take on the challenges of a new day – every day.
Another characteristic of those who are fulfilling their destiny is that what they do has impact – a good, positive impact on others. They are no longer ‘spinning their wheels’ – doing things that never seem to amount to much. They are satisfied in their labor and see good results from what they do. They may not experience constant success, but even setback are not experienced as something ‘terrible’, but rather as a step toward progress.
Steps you can take toward finding your destiny:
1. Be honest with yourself. It’s time to stop trying to live up to the expectations of your parents, your significant other, your children or your boss. Think honestly about who you are and where you are in life. To get a more objective perspective, talk it over with someone who has known you for a long time who will be honest with you. Become aware of your strengths, your weaknesses, your personality type, what gives you energy and what saps your strength. Become accepting of yourself – this is a process and you might need help with it. Be willing to ask for help.
2. Be honest with others. Practice being genuine and authentic in your daily interactions with those around you. Don’t be fake anymore. Don’t pretend. Be who you are. Set boundaries of mutual respect in your relationships. As you are expressing who you are, make sure you keep the next point in mind.
3. Choose love. Be kind to others. Be patient with their shortcomings. Be forgiving in your daily interactions – give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Do to others what you would like done for you. Shift out of your self-centered view of life. Notice the needs of others – help when you can, recognize when you can’t and then let it go.
4. Be patient with the process. It takes time to become the person you are meant to be. The raw material is there, but it takes a significant amount of time and effort to cultivate it, shape it and practice it in order for it to manifest on a daily basis. Give yourself time to make the changes you need to make in your thought patterns, emotions, interactions with others, etc. Let go of your expectations of what it should look like or how long it should take. It takes as long as it takes. This is not a race – this is a journey.
5. Become comfortable with the unknown. Each person’s path is unique – no one can give you a road map to follow in finding your destiny. Pieces of the puzzle don’t come all at once – you get them one at a time and often they don’t seem to match at first. Allow for mystery – don’t get uptight if something doesn’t make sense. If it is important, it will eventually fit into place. If it is not, it will fade away. It is okay to not have all the answers. The answers will come as you ask, seek, knock, observe, reflect, examine. And they will come when you need them, not necessarily when you want them.
Ponder these steps. If you want some help with this process, I offer one-on-one coaching to help you discover who you are and why you are here.
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