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Do You Make Time to Play?

Do You Make Time to Play?

I have been getting a pull in my heart/mind/spirit to DO less and BE more. That’s sounds like a contradiction, right? We are supposed to be doing MORE, not less! At least that’s what my “To-Do” list tells me every weekend. We keep putting things off, adding them to our mental to-do list and eventually it becomes a pressing issue that we need to DO the items on the list. I know this is a common struggle for most of us. Can you relate?

But this pull says to me, “Wait. When was the last time you just did something for fun? With no agenda, no to-do list, just enjoying the moment.”

Yeah, that’s what I thought.

As kids we have lots of “downtime” and very little on our to-do list. Especially in the summer when school is out, we envy children who have time to just watch the clouds go by, looking for funny faces and animals. We’re too busy to even notice the clouds on our commute.

Research shows that adults that take time to “play” experience more energy, more creativity and a better mood overall. It also contributes to better health and a sense of well being.

How do you find time to play?

Block out a 4 hour period during one of your day’s off. Don’t schedule anything. Turn off your phone, computer, tablet, television and any other media device. Do nothing. Let yourself get bored and then see what ideas come to you naturally. Boredom is a GREAT foundation for creative play. Then just follow your heart – whatever comes to you, DO IT!

This downtime will really recharge your soul. Some people enjoy it so much that they make it a regular habit. In the past when I had a really stressful job, I would block out my entire Saturday. I did not make any commitments to anyone – it was MY time. If I wanted to sleep late, I would. If I wanted to get up early and take a walk, I would. I could go to the park or the movies impulsively – just on a whim. [Yes, if you have kids you can still do this. Kids LOVE unstructured play. In fact, they’ll teach you how – follow their lead.]

The idea is that you need UNSTRUCTURED time to find yourself again. To find your strength and creativity – to let your soul out so it can stretch and climb and soar.

I challenge you to try this. Try it every weekend in July and see how much you enjoy the benefits. You might even be willing to sacrifice “normal” scheduled activities for this. You might be willing to get off the treadmill of doing MORE and instead enjoy the benefits of just BEING. [DO less, BE more.]

Let me know how it goes – I’d like to hear what you tried and how it worked for you. Everybody’s different – find your own rhythm. You owe it to yourself and those you love.

You’ll be a better person if you’ll take time to play on a regular basis.


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What Makes Some People So Confident?

Some people act with so much confidence. Have you ever wondered why? Remember the Fonz on the TV show, Happy Days? He was so “cool & confident”. He inspired Richie to want to be like him. You probably have some people like that in your life. What makes them so confident?

Self-confidence comes from a combination of life purpose and a strong sense of self-worth. When you know where you are going in life (your purpose) and you value yourself & your goals, it is easier to make decisions. Your sense of “inner direction” and your value system guides you daily. When you develop a strong sense of self-worth, insecurity disappears. You know who you are and you know what you want. As you pursue it, doors “magically” open for you. You have favor with important people and things happen for you effortlessly. It’s pretty amazing to watch.

So, how do you get there?

Action step: Start with strengthening your sense of self-worth. Ask 3 people who are close to you (a friend, a family member and a coworker) to tell you 3 characteristics about you that are positive. Ask them for examples of when you have demonstrated those characteristics. Can they tell you why those characteristics are valuable to them? Take all that information and study it. Do YOU see the value in yourself?

This is something that is very hard for some people to do. You probably take your strengths and talents for granted because they are so “familiar” to you. You may focus on what other people can do well (and often judge yourself as inadequate by comparison). If you don’t value yourself, then you probably don’t value your strengths either. But there’s hope!

There’s more to this process – too much to write in a short post like this. I can help you develop greater self-worth through personal coaching sessions. Then once that is established, you can work on life purpose. Your self-confidence will grow. Then you’ve got a great platform for the “magic” to begin. Call me – I’ll help you! You don’t have to do this alone anymore. Cell: 305-781-6229 🙂

P.S. This post is the latest article to appear in my monthly newsletter, Coach Sandy’s Tips for Life. If you’d like to receive more uplifting, encouraging (but short!) little articles like this once a month, you can sign up here:

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