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Does Familiarity Breed Contempt? You choose

This week during the Couples Workshop we discussed the cliché, “Familiarity breeds contempt”. Unfortunately, this is often true when it comes to long-term romantic relationships. They start out full of excitement and energy, but after a while couples can fall into the rut of contempt. Getting to know someone very well in the day-to-day challenges of life can cause you to start noticing all the little things about them that annoy you. If you are not careful, you can allow this annoyance to turn into disrespect. Disrespect, if nurtured by further disappointment and negative thinking, can become full-blown contempt. Once a couple reaches the stage of mutual disrespect and contempt, it is very hard to save the relationship.

What can you do?

You spent a lot of time and energy finding your partner – it’s worth it to invest in keeping the relationship healthy and full of life! The secret is – you get to CHOOSE whether you allow your heart to cultivate contempt or not. Isn’t that surprising? YOU are the only one who determines whether or not you will allow familiarity to breed contempt. It doesn’t have to – it can actually breed the opposite: Admiration and Intimacy.

Action step: If you notice yourself thinking a lot of negative thoughts about the one you love, stop and reconsider. YOU get to choose your own thoughts. Separate in your mind the behavior from the person – too often we jump to conclusions about WHY a person does what they do. You really don’t know and when you jump to conclusions, you tend to pass judgment on them. Don’t do that! Give them the benefit of the doubt – treat them as you would want to be treated. Assume the best, not the worst. Practice gratitude – daily think of things you are grateful for that your partner does. Make a point of telling them what you are grateful for – a partner that feels loved and appreciated will have greater respect and gratitude for YOU. See how that works? You treat them the way you want to be treated and you reap the positivity that you’ve given them. This cultivates intimacy instead of contempt.


If you find yourself struggling with this, contact me. I can help you work through this issue and turn your relationship around! I have tools and techniques that help you “pull your weeds” and plant better seeds to that you can enjoy the fruit of your garden. Having someone help you with this makes it much easier and the work goes much faster!

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Being thankful ♥

This is the month we focus on being thankful for what we have. I thought I’d repost this little inspirational thought about cultivating gratitude.

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“Gratitude is the attitude that releases increases!” – Sandy Walker

Okay, I know – it’s kind of a catchy phrase. But it’s really TRUE! When you are grateful for something, you are focusing positive energy on that thing. Whatever you focus on … grows. So, it makes sense that when you are grateful that releases more good things to come to you … usually of the same kind.

Try it! It will open up your heart to receive MORE. I promise. 🙂

Secret to Long-Lasting Love

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The Secret to Long-Lasting Love – it may surprise you!

Many people focus on love and romance in February – Card, Candy and Flower Companies encourage you to find a way to express your love by buying just the right product. Do you remember what you gave or received last Valentine’s Day? Nope, me neither (sorry, honey). I’m sure it was fitting, romantic and sweet – but unfortunately, it didn’t stick with me (well, except for the extra pounds I probably gained from eating all that chocolate).

Would you like to know one of the secrets to Long-Lasting Love in a romantic relationship? It might surprise you … are you ready for this? Gratitude. Once the initial thrill of “new love” has worn off, you and your partner are now navigating daily life. Our lives get pretty routine and mundane – go to work, pay the bills, eat, sleep, etc. It’s easy (and very human) to pay attention to things that annoy us. It doesn’t take much. Over time, we too easily forget what drew us to this wonderful person we wanted to spend so much time with.

Gratitude reminds you what you love about him or her. When you first met, you couldn’t believe how much they connected with you. The things they said and the topics you talked about were EXACTLY what you needed to hear. You were so thankful to have found them. So what happened? Where’s that spark?

Action step: Gratitude changes your attitude – it really does! Take this challenge: Each day this month think of one thing you are grateful for and send it as a text message to that special someone. If you are not in a romantic relationship, then text it to various close friends or family that you care about. It will definitely change your attitude – you’ll start noticing the POSITIVE things you like about this person. And guess what? They will respond to your outpouring of Love – I promise. It could improve the intimacy in your relationship – you tend to open up to someone who expresses how much they like you! Try it – then tell me how it worked for you. I LOVE to hear stories & I may publish it in the next newsletter.

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“Gratitude is the attitude that releases …

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“Gratitude is the attitude that releases increases!” – Sandy Walker

Okay, I know – it’s kind of a catchy phrase. But it’s really TRUE! When you are grateful for something, you are focusing positive energy on that thing. Whatever you focus on … grows. So, it makes sense that when you are grateful that releases more good things to come to you … usually of the same kind.

Try it! It will open up your heart to receive MORE. I promise. 🙂

[BTW, that photo is of the “sunflower” bush in my yard. It grows 8 feet tall & then blooms. We have to keep trimming it so it doesn’t get into the power lines. I think the official name is the Mexican Daisy.]

Do the Right Thing: Your heart will thank you

Do the Right Thing

Do the Right Thing: Your heart will thank you

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