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Trust the Little Voice Inside

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The other day I was trying to make a decision. I had several options to choose from. I could do A, B or C. Option A looked good and reasonable. Option B was an alternate choice – still good, but maybe not the best. Option C kind of made me nervous because I wasn’t sure of how it might turn out, but it looked like a good choice. All 3 were “equal” – none of them were “bad choices”. They each had their pros and cons – it was hard to decide.

What do you do in situations like that? As a coach is I listen to people as they try to make good, wise decisions for themselves and their family. Should they stay in their current job or move to a different company? Should they keep the kids in their current school or look for a different one? Should they stay in this relationship or should they withdraw? Sometimes it’s hard to pick the best choice. How do you know what’s best?

Trust the Little Voice Inside

I teach my clients to trust the little voice inside their hearts or trust their “gut”. Some people refer to this as an inner knowing or a sense of which decision is the best one. Or sometimes it’s the opposite – you get a “bad feeling” about one of the choices and you know that’s not the one you should take.

I’ve taught this concept many times and whenever I ask, “Have you ever ignored that “little voice inside” and later discovered you should have listened?” People always say, “Yes!” and they usually have a story to tell where following that little voice would have saved them a lot of grief, heartache or money. If only they had listened!

Action step: That little voice is there to guide you. It really does keep you out of trouble. The more you listen to it, the more direction and clarity you get from it. I don’t claim to know how it works exactly – some say it is your “conscience”, some say it is God’s Spirit, some say it is your “higher self” or an angel. I don’t care what you call it – just listen to it when you know you should and it will help you. [One caveat: Not every little voice in your head should be followed. Notice I said to trust the voice in your heart, not your head. There’s a difference. If you need help figuring that out, contact me.]

I have an exercise that can help strengthen your ability to listen to your “gut”. It’s on my blog: How to Practice Listening to Your Gut

If you need an objective sounding board to help you figure out the best decision to make, contact me. I’d love to help you. 305-781-6229

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Listen to your heart

Q28 Listen to Your Heart

Listen to your heart

What does that mean?

It means pay attention when your insides are telling you something. It means not denying how you feel about a person or a situation. It means learning to trust that inner voice, that inner self’s intuition, about people, places and things.

It really makes a big difference in your life whether or not you are listening to your heart.

Those that don’t will suffer. They drown out that inner voice with alcohol, with work, or even with mindless activity like watching tv or surfing the internet. Anything to stay busy, to stay distracted so that they don’t have to pay attention to their thoughts.

And yet, if they would slow down long enough to listen, they might just be surprised by what they hear. It can open new doors. It can reveal truth you really need to hear. It can lead you to the right path, the right job, the right person for your life.

Why DON’T you listen to your heart?

Many of my clients come to me because something is stirring them to listen … but they have forgotten how. Or they doubt what they are hearing and they need someone to help them sort out the conflicting emotions that listening sometimes brings up.

I LOVE to help people listen to their heart. It brings such clarity of purpose and focus to their lives. Your heart can connect you to wellspring of peace and joy. But you have to start with LISTENING … listening closely.

If this is something you’d like some help with, let me know. You can contact me privately through my website www.destinysfreedom.com.

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Who’s in control here?

Q22 Who's in control

Who’s in control here? You or Me? – God

Just a little reminder to surrender control of the new year to the Higher Power who brings order to the Universe we know. The more we try to grasp for control, the more anxious we become. The more anxious we are, the less we enjoy life. The less we enjoy life, the more miserable we are – and we tend to affect all those around us as well. We also don’t sleep well and don’t make wise decisions when we are anxious.

So, just give it up already! Surrendering control to something bigger than you is incredibly freeing! It brings tremendous peace and joy – when you just let go. Try it! ♥

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LET GO OR BE DRAGGED

Q14 Let Go
LET GO OR BE DRAGGED

Need I say more? It’s all about control ….
Just let go. Your heart will thank you! ♥

Overcoming Blocks in Pursuing Your Destiny: Part 3

For those of you who are pressing forward to pursue your destiny or “passionate purpose in life”, here are some pointers of what to do when you encounter a “blockage”. I will post this in parts because it’s a lot to take in.

For those of you just joining us, you can start with Part 1 here.

In Part 2, we covered the importance of Meditation/Mindfulness, Trusting Your Gut and Relinquishing Control.

Today is the last part of this 3 part post.

7. Look for “signposts” and follow them. Be encouraged by them no matter how small they might seem. Write them down to keep track of them. Once you’ve got clarity, the “signposts” just show up, don’t they? Serendipity, Synchronicity, Providence, Being at the Right Place at the Right Time, etc. Things just seem to start “clicking” again – you notice little signs of encouragement that you are on the right track. This can happen while you still “feel” blocked or you lack direction about what to do next. Let the signs encourage you that you are not crazy and there’s still hope!

Here’s the most important and the most overlooked step:

8. WAIT – this is the hardest one. Sometimes it’s a matter of timing – you are blocked because it’s not time to act yet. This is especially true when you cannot get clarity or peace about making a decision. Remember: You’ll know WHAT to do when it’s TIME to do something. And often, you’ll feel “stuck” while you are waiting. If you’ve done points 1 to 7 and still have no idea what to do or which direction to take, then the obvious answer is: Wait. Even if it is hard to do so.

9. Relax and have fun. This is supposed to be an exhilarating adventure. If at any point, you no longer have joy, STOP. You are doing something wrong. It is possible to get so passionate about what you are doing that it drives you to exhaustion and burn out. Don’t let that happen. Childlike joy and wonder is the energy behind following your destiny. Make room for it every single day. I promise you won’t regret it.

One last pointer from personal experience:
Surround yourself with people who understand these principles so that they can help you when you feel stuck. They do exist. I specifically cultivate relationships with people who know these things so that when I need a sounding board or another perspective, they can remind me. They might not know all the principles, but they have experienced at least some of them and they help me identify which stage I’m in.

Of course, I am available for consultation – that’s what I’m here for. I am passionate about people finding and fulfilling their destiny. I seem to have a special knack for helping people become “unstuck” when they feel blocked on their path. So, if that’s you, contact me and I’ll help you.

Here’s to your destiny being fulfilled!

Feel free to comment below. You can contact me privately through my website www.destinysfreedom.com.

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Intuition Exercise

In my last post, I discussed the importance of paying attention to your intuition. In this one, I will share with you an exercise I developed for helping someone make decisions based on their intuition (aka listening to your gut).

How to Practice Listening to Your Gut

Place one hand on your stomach, just above your belly button.

Focus on the area beneath your hand – that is your gut. Very often when we get a “gut instinct” about a person or a decision, we feel something in this region of our body. Some people describe it as “peace” or “relaxed” or “comfortable” when the gut agrees with what you are doing. When the gut does not agree, people say they feel a “tightness” or “fear” or a “bad feeling”.

Think about a decision you need to make. Come up with 2 options regarding the decision. For instance,

  1. I want to take this job offer.
  2. I do not want to take this job offer.

or if regarding a person,

  1. I want to spend time with this person.
  2. I do not want to spend time with this person.

You can come up with any two options that are appropriate to your situation.

Close your eyes. Take several deep breaths, slowly. Allow your mind to quiet down. Focus on your breath as it goes in and out.

Focus on the area underneath your hand – not physically, but emotionally or “internally”.

Say each of your options out loud. Say them one at a time and say them slowly. See if there is any difference in your gut. Do you have more peace regarding one option versus the other? Or do you a have a “bad feeling” about one of them?

If you don’t get a clear answer, try this process again on a different day. Sometimes timing is a factor in trusting your gut. You might not need to know the answer today. Tomorrow might provide more information and give you a clearer answer.

Many people have said that when they trust their gut, they make decisions that are good for them and that seem like the right thing to do. However, when they ignore that “gut feeling”, they often regret the decisions they made. Later it becomes clear that they should have followed their gut!

Research has shown that there is a very dense concentration of nerves that cover this area of the stomach, almost as complex as the nerves in your brain. Some have said this is your “second brain” to help you make wise decisions. Pay attention to what it is telling you.

If you’d like some help with learning to listen to your gut or intuition, please contact me. I offer affordable one-on-one coaching, in person or over the phone, to help people learn how to make decisions that are good for them. This is an essential life skill – it would be wise for you to develop it. It is also wisdom to know when you need help and to ask for it.

Feel free to comment below. You can contact me privately through my website www.destinysfreedom.com.

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

 

Sandy Walker is a Freedom Coach who works with clients in person or by telephone anywhere they are. To find out more, visit www.destinysfreedom.com or contact Sandy.

Develop Your Intuition

Developing your intuition is a very important skill for life. Those that pay attention to their intuition lead lives that are more satisfying than those that don’t. How do I know? When I teach on this topic, I ask the audience, “How many of you have ignored your intuition and later suffered the consequences of that decision?” People always raise their hands and if asked, they tell stories of heartache and loss that they encountered as a result of ignoring their intuition.

Intuition is very important – it gives you information that is in addition to the five senses you use every day when navigating the world around you. This added information can mean the difference between life and death sometimes. Other times, it offers direction or protection against danger. Ask those you trust for their stories about intuition – you’ll be surprised how important it is and yet we never receive specific training in how to develop it, much less any encouragement to pay attention to it.

Intuition reminds me of the character Jiminy Cricket in the animated film Pinocchio. Do you remember that little guy who would advise Pinocchio and help to keep him out of trouble? That’s a pretty good visual of what your intuition does. Whenever Pinocchio listened to Jiminy, everything went well. When he ignored him, he got into a lot of trouble … remember the whale?

If you’d like to develop your intuition, start by paying more attention to it. People often comment by saying, “I had a bad feeling about that.” or similar sentiments. Intuition is sometimes felt in your physical body. Other times it comes as an inner “knowing”. Someone might say, “I just knew I couldn’t trust that man!” How did they know? Intuition.

We all experience it to one degree or another. The more you pay attention to it, the more sensitive you become to what it is trying to tell you. Listen, respond and take action on the information it gives you. If you have a bad feeling about a person, then don’t associate with them. If going to a certain place makes you uncomfortable, don’t go there anymore. If a decision you are making doesn’t “feel right”, then don’t make that decision right now. Wait for more information or choose a different direction.

We often argue with our intuition. We compare what our five senses are telling us (i.e. he looks like a nice person) with what our gut is telling us (i.e. don’t trust him). Every time you ignore your gut instinct, you will suffer negative consequences.

It also works with positive scenarios. If you are choosing between two job offers and one makes you feel happy or excited, that may be your gut telling you to take that job. Think it over carefully to make sure you are not being too idealistic and if you still feel really drawn to one job over the other, then choose that job.

There are exercises you can do to strengthen your intuition. Later this week I will post one I use with my clients. It is worth your time and effort to develop this skill – it can save you a lot of heartache and headaches over a lifetime of decisions. Ignore it to your peril!

Feel free to comment below. You can contact me privately through my website www.destinysfreedom.com.

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