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Happy Holidays or … Not?

A lot of people LOVE this time of year – all the pretty decorations and holiday parties to attend where you can feast in a festive atmosphere among friends, coworkers or family.

However, most of us have a few challenges during this season. Our holidays may not all be happy – there’s the mounting bills created during this month, travel plans, endless shopping, decorating and cooking. Being invited to parties sounds wonderful until you are trying to balance 2-3 events, often occurring in the same week.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed – there’s so much to DO, to SEE and to experience. We want to make this year memorable with special events – don’t we try to do that every year? I know I do.

So how do you keep your “Happy” in the holiday season?

Pace yourself – take it easy. Pay attention to signs from your body that you need a break. Here’s a clue: If you’d rather go take a nap than go to an event, do it. Take a nap. That will give you more focus and energy for the days ahead – believe me, you’re gonna need it. 🙂

Drop the guilt – people often tell me how guilty they feel if they turn down an invitation from a friend or family member during the holiday season. The point of the holidays is LOVE, not guilt. No one who really loves you wants you to feel guilty if you don’t come to their event. If they give you a guilt trip, that’s NOT LOVE, that’s manipulation. The ones who love you will understand. Really. Trust me on this. Go see them AFTER the holidays – you’ll probably have better quality time with them that way.

Remember the joy – I make a point of pacing myself during the holidays so that I can remember the joy of the season. What’s the point if the holidays just bring stress? I don’t need more of that in my life. What I need is JOY – so I make time for it. Simple things like: If I see beautiful lights on someone’s house, I pause and really take it in, letting the colors and designs delight me. When I’m having my favorite hot drink, I pause, close my eyes and savor the warm, steamy scent wafting from my cup before I take a slow sip, allowing myself to embrace the flavor and the moment. These are just simple examples of taking time for joy in every day life – you can apply this to many of your holiday experiences.

The point? Be fully present to enjoy the “Present” of the moment.

Remember to take care of you – both physically through getting enough sleep and nourishment and emotionally, through monitoring your stress levels. As I’ve learned to practice these steps, I’ve begun to enjoy the holidays instead of dreading them. You can too.

Many people will be making New Year’s Resolutions in a few weeks. Having a Life Coach can really help you beat the odds so that you actually achieve your resolutions instead of giving up on them! Give me a call – let’s set a date in January to go over your hopes and dreams for the New Year. I also offer Gift Certificates if there’s someone to whom you’d like to give the gift of Life Coaching – send me an email for details.  Phone: 305-781-6229,


Are You Inside Out?

If you haven’t seen the new animation by Disney called Inside Out, I highly recommend that you watch it. It has some terrific lessons about managing our emotions. You’ll laugh, you may cry and you’ll nod in understanding. The writers did a great job of capturing what it is like to be human.

The primary theme of the movie is that we need ALL our emotions, not just the positive ones. We live in a society that pressures us to “have it all together” which somehow means being happy, successful and never showing sadness, fear or anger publicly. Why? Who decided this standard? Why do we resist expressing negative emotions – does this standard imply they are invalid? Certainly not!

It’s important to validate your emotions – it’s okay to be angry, it’s okay to be sad and it’s okay to be afraid. It doesn’t make you any less of a person. We can spend so much energy ignoring or pushing down our emotions that it wears us out emotionally. I’ve heard people say, “I’m just so tired.” They are tired of pretending everything is okay. Why not try a different route? VALIDATION

Action step: Give yourself permission to feel your emotions. If they come up in a place where you don’t want to express them (i.e. at work), then give yourself a chance to express them later. Make a point of telling yourself, “It’s okay to be sad.” (or angry or fearful or whatever emotion you may be feeling). Express the emotion and then let it go. Don’t wallow in it until it consumes you. Find the truth in what you are feeling – are you angry because you experienced something unjust? Are you sad because someone disappointed you? Putting words to what you are experiencing can help you get a handle on what to do, if anything, about the situation that caused your emotional reaction. Validating your right to feel your emotions is very freeing and powerful. I challenge you to try it for yourself – let me know how it goes!

Emotional Freedom

Emotional Freedom is my specialty – I’m a Freedom Coach. I help people learn how to manage their emotions and clear out any blocked feelings. Sometimes you can feel “stuck” emotionally – I can help you get unstuck. For years I felt overwhelmed by negative emotions and I didn’t know what to do. I spent a lot of time and money finding answers. Now I have LOTS of Peace and Joy. I’ve learned how to manage fear, anger and disappointment so that they don’t rule my life anymore. If you’d like to learn how to do this, I would love to help you. It’s so much easier to learn this when you have a coach by your side, helping you grow and understand what is happening inside of you. You don’t have to do it alone – I’ll help you! Call me 305-781-6229 or email me at

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Open Up! ♥

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What the mind can conceive, the heart can receive … Open Up! – Sandy Walker

It has been my experience that it’s nearly impossible for you to receive something into your life if you cannot conceive doing so. I hear people say, when speaking of something positive, “Oh, that would never happen to me!” When they hear of someone else’s good fortune or door of opportunity, they ask, “How come that never happens to me?”

Can you imagine something good coming your way or do you often see only the negative view of life? Do you anticipate good things happening for you? When you begin to expect good, guess what? You start noticing all the good things that DO happen in your life. This increases your positive expectation (it gives you more faith) that more good things will come your way and it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

There seems to be a principle of life that your heart can receive only what your mind is willing to conceive – to accept, to believe and to expect.

Change your expectations, shift your thinking and you’ll be amazed what happens next! Try it and let me know what happens! ♥

Wanna be happy? Love others!

Q16 Love brings Joy

Wanna be happy? Love others! and you’ll be full of Joy!

Overcoming Blocks in Pursuing Your Destiny: Part 3

For those of you who are pressing forward to pursue your destiny or “passionate purpose in life”, here are some pointers of what to do when you encounter a “blockage”. I will post this in parts because it’s a lot to take in.

For those of you just joining us, you can start with Part 1 here.

In Part 2, we covered the importance of Meditation/Mindfulness, Trusting Your Gut and Relinquishing Control.

Today is the last part of this 3 part post.

7. Look for “signposts” and follow them. Be encouraged by them no matter how small they might seem. Write them down to keep track of them. Once you’ve got clarity, the “signposts” just show up, don’t they? Serendipity, Synchronicity, Providence, Being at the Right Place at the Right Time, etc. Things just seem to start “clicking” again – you notice little signs of encouragement that you are on the right track. This can happen while you still “feel” blocked or you lack direction about what to do next. Let the signs encourage you that you are not crazy and there’s still hope!

Here’s the most important and the most overlooked step:

8. WAIT – this is the hardest one. Sometimes it’s a matter of timing – you are blocked because it’s not time to act yet. This is especially true when you cannot get clarity or peace about making a decision. Remember: You’ll know WHAT to do when it’s TIME to do something. And often, you’ll feel “stuck” while you are waiting. If you’ve done points 1 to 7 and still have no idea what to do or which direction to take, then the obvious answer is: Wait. Even if it is hard to do so.

9. Relax and have fun. This is supposed to be an exhilarating adventure. If at any point, you no longer have joy, STOP. You are doing something wrong. It is possible to get so passionate about what you are doing that it drives you to exhaustion and burn out. Don’t let that happen. Childlike joy and wonder is the energy behind following your destiny. Make room for it every single day. I promise you won’t regret it.

One last pointer from personal experience:
Surround yourself with people who understand these principles so that they can help you when you feel stuck. They do exist. I specifically cultivate relationships with people who know these things so that when I need a sounding board or another perspective, they can remind me. They might not know all the principles, but they have experienced at least some of them and they help me identify which stage I’m in.

Of course, I am available for consultation – that’s what I’m here for. I am passionate about people finding and fulfilling their destiny. I seem to have a special knack for helping people become “unstuck” when they feel blocked on their path. So, if that’s you, contact me and I’ll help you.

Here’s to your destiny being fulfilled!

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Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach

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