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Feeling empty?

I feel empty. Do you?

Do you ever allow the crazy busyness of your life to slow down enough to realize how incredibly empty you feel inside?

Some people run from this feeling – through alcohol, drugs, being a workaholic, etc.

Some people are overwhelmed by this feeling and they become depressed or worse.

What do you do with this feeling of emptiness? How do you manage it? Why is it there?

My feeling of emptiness feels like the Grand Canyon inside. Like I have this immense capacity that needs to be filled and most of the time, it isn’t. Can you relate?

And nothing satisfies this emptiness – have you noticed? You can stay busy and ignore it. You can try to fill it with work, money, entertainment, relationships, cars, houses, fashion, hobbies, children, etc. – but it never feels satisfied.

I have never found any natural substance that can fill this vacuum.

So I turned to the “supernatural” – that unseen realm we are told exists just outside our natural senses of awareness. People try meditating, yoga, special exercises to calm the mind and body. It certainly reduces your stress, but fill that void? Haven’t found one that does that yet.

How do YOU fill that void? Or do you do what everyone else does and just stay busy so you won’t feel the pain of emptiness? Denial only works for so long … eventually our awareness of that vacuum arises again.

I figured out why it’s there for – at least for me. And I figured out what to do with it. But knowing and doing are two different things.

For me, this gnawing emptiness is there to remind me that there’s more to this life than what meets the eye. That there is a realm beyond our natural possibilities that invites us to be more than we ever believed possible. And it draws me daily to chase after the only thing that I have found that satisfies.

I want more of what fills this place. I’ve got to have it to survive. So I pursue daily. Sometimes a little bit, sometimes a lot. I wake up at night with this longing for MORE. Almost like a drug addict, I can’t live without that connection, that intimacy with something greater than myself. That sense of Being that resonates throughout the universe. That Cause greater than ourselves.

We all feel it calling to us … we just don’t always respond or know how to. It calls us to our best selves. To be more than we ever dreamed possible. To care more that we are comfortable caring. To BE more than we have ever given ourselves permission to BE. It’s an unstoppable Force that is carrying along our entire universe yet it focuses on each one of us personally, drawing us in, calling to us in the night.

You know you’ve felt it. We all have. I call it “God” for lack of a better word. Though that word has been defined so many different ways that I hesitate to use it. But no other concept compares. This Big, Undefinable, Huge, Mysterious Force that calls us to Love and to BE things that seem totally beyond our ability. I call it “God”.

So, if you ever see me refer to “God” in my posts, you’ll know that’s what I am referring to. Not some religious concept on stained glass windows or chanted by a devotee of some system of rules. No, this is much, much bigger than anything I’ve ever encountered in manmade systems or structures.

I ask again: Do you ever allow the crazy busyness of your life to slow down enough to realize how incredibly empty you feel inside? What do YOU do with that feeling?

It’s driving me crazy right now … can’t get enough of what I need to be satisfied, to fill this Grand Canyon size hole in my soul. I must have MORE.


Finding Your Destiny – Part 2

Q: How will you know when you’ve found your destiny?

Most people report a deep sense of internal rest, a sense of being at home in their skin, a lack of underlying striving or anxiety. People who are fulfilling their destiny say they have a sense of Purpose that accompanies their daily routine – they do not suffer from a lack of direction. Others report a sense of being energized, of waking up joyful and ready to take on the challenges of a new day – every day.

Another characteristic of those who are fulfilling their destiny is that what they do has impact – a good, positive impact on others. They are no longer ‘spinning their wheels’ – doing things that never seem to amount to much. They are satisfied in their labor and see good results from what they do. They may not experience constant success, but even setback are not experienced as something ‘terrible’, but rather as a step toward progress.

Steps you can take toward finding your destiny:

1. Be honest with yourself. It’s time to stop trying to live up to the expectations of your parents, your significant other, your children or your boss. Think honestly about who you are and where you are in life. To get a more objective perspective, talk it over with someone who has known you for a long time who will be honest with you. Become aware of your strengths, your weaknesses, your personality type, what gives you energy and what saps your strength. Become accepting of yourself – this is a process and you might need help with it. Be willing to ask for help.

2. Be honest with others. Practice being genuine and authentic in your daily interactions with those around you. Don’t be fake anymore. Don’t pretend. Be who you are. Set boundaries of mutual respect in your relationships. As you are expressing who you are, make sure you keep the next point in mind.

3. Choose love. Be kind to others. Be patient with their shortcomings. Be forgiving in your daily interactions – give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Do to others what you would like done for you. Shift out of your self-centered view of life. Notice the needs of others – help when you can, recognize when you can’t and then let it go.

4. Be patient with the process. It takes time to become the person you are meant to be. The raw material is there, but it takes a significant amount of time and effort to cultivate it, shape it and practice it in order for it to manifest on a daily basis. Give yourself time to make the changes you need to make in your thought patterns, emotions, interactions with others, etc. Let go of your expectations of what it should look like or how long it should take. It takes as long as it takes. This is not a race – this is a journey.

5. Become comfortable with the unknown. Each person’s path is unique – no one can give you a road map to follow in finding your destiny. Pieces of the puzzle don’t come all at once – you get them one at a time and often they don’t seem to match at first. Allow for mystery – don’t get uptight if something doesn’t make sense. If it is important, it will eventually fit into place. If it is not, it will fade away. It is okay to not have all the answers. The answers will come as you ask, seek, knock, observe, reflect, examine. And they will come when you need them, not necessarily when you want them.


Ponder these steps. If you want some help with this process, I offer one-on-one coaching to help you discover who you are and why you are here.

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